Becoming: Girls Who Patiently Wait

“You usually have to wait for that which is worth waiting for.”- Craig Bruce

Patiently WaitI’ve had to wait for many things in my life-  for instance, I’m waiting for school to get out for summer- like you! I’ve waited many times for late airplanes, dinner to be ready, meetings, online orders to arrive, …A HUSBAND!…(can I get an amen), and the list goes on and on. Really, we all have to wait. Life is about waiting and learning to wait is an inevitable part of living. We like to march to the beat of our own drum, but hate to wait when the beat stops. When things happen that are beyond our control, we tend to grow impatient and do what we can to hurry along the waiting….as if we have the power to speed up time (in which we don’t!). We’ve become a generation that hates to wait and therefore does a poor job with patience. Waiting is really important, but how we act while we wait is what shapes us. Our hearts are truly revealed by how we respond to seasons where we’re waiting. We are either someone who sees the beauty in the waiting or we grow tired and worn from working so hard to avoid it all together that we miss out on the blessing waiting can bring. I’ve been on both ends of that spectrum! Let me encourage you to be a girl who isn’t afraid to wait. God tends to give good things to those who wait patiently for him.

Lamentations 3:25   The LORD is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.

One of the most heartbreaking things for someone like me who strives to lead a life that honors Christ is to see young girls give in and settle because they couldn’t wait. They couldn’t stand the thought of what waiting might mean. They’re so blinded by the immediate gratification that they’ll settle for the good when they could have had the great. Waiting is scary and lonely and hard, yes! Waiting is work. BUT- waiting brings the best outcome. Waiting teaches us to place our faith in the foundation that won’t be shaken- God. Waiting is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. And I’m still deciding every day to wait. I’m waiting for the man God will bring one day. Waiting to build a family with not just anyone but the RIGHT one. Waiting to see what God will do next, what doors will open, what path will be made straight and clear. I’m waiting and I think its important that you wait too.

God made something very clear to me several years ago. At a time when I thought I had life all figured out, God knew I needed to know how to wait. He knew me best and even my most thoughtful and well-meaning plans were not the best plans. I had dreamed of getting married and starting a family. I just wanted to live life. Just live. I never wanted to be the girl that had a career and a house and a life well built without a husband to build it with. But I am. I am that girl. I’m the one that leads young women along the paths I’ve once walked (and I absolutely LOVE that role). God taught me what waiting looks like and feels like. I’ve been through the dark valley of loneliness and fear and then I’ve marched high on the mountain tops of hopes and dreams and vision. God reveals things to us in our seasons of waiting. We can rest. We can learn. We can dream. We can become girls who wait for the best. I can’t imagine how my life might be different had I not discovered the beauty in waiting. And I’ll add that I’ve truly, truly lived.

God wants us to patiently wait. Don’t settle! Don’t compromise the dreams and goals and promises that God has given you! Don’t try to avoid the process altogether. You have a future that is brilliantly bright and full of God’s goodness and grace. Trust that God has a plan just for you. He made you with Heaven and all of the blessings he can bestow upon you in mind. He made you completely worthy and deserving of the very best. You are worth waiting for! God’s best is worth waiting for!

So, my prayer for you is this: Know that your waiting isn’t in vain. There will be times when you feel like an eternity of waiting is knocking on your door, but God moves when we least expect it. He surprises me daily with things that I’ve been faithful enough to wait on. He renews my strength day after day and reminds me of the promises He’s made to me concerning my future. I pray often that girls would choose to wait and never settle. Choose to be different. Choose to live every moment with a sense of adventure, hope, and vision. I pray that you would understand the immeasurable love your heavenly Father has for you that He would allow you to patiently wait for the very best.

Becoming: Girls With Fearless Faith

Becoming: Girls With Fearless FaithSo, I thought that it’d be fun to start a new mini series of posts for girls about becoming who we were born to be in Christ. Much of what you’ll read in the “Becoming” series actually comes from the Bible study my girls and I are going through on Monday nights. (I’ll put a link to a sample of it at the bottom of this post.)

When we talk about faith, especially in the Christian community, I feel like the term itself gets tossed around quite a bit. Hence, if you’ve spent any time in a church or around a group of Christians you’ve probably heard of  said “faith.” I wonder have you seen faith in action? It’s easy to say, “Yeah, I’ve got faith….” or, “My faith is strong…” Yet, for young women who are making decisions that will affect their future, I feel the need is great for older, Godly influences to not just talk about faith, but to model faith and live it out every single day.

God says that if we’ll have faith the size of a tiny mustard seed, we’ll be able to move mountains (see Matthew 17:20). Powerful promise, huh? I’ve grown to view my faith like this: I, Kindall, wasn’t born with deep wells of faith. My faith has grown and developed as I’ve taken this journey with Christ. One decision based in faith leads to another and another and before you know it, I’m making great leaps of faith because my trust in who Christ is to me is strong. As I look back over my own life I see where great things were accomplished through me- NOT because I had great faith, but because I took the tiny seed of faith I did  have and planted it safely in God’s hands, allowing Him to work through me. It was the tiny step to simply say yes to what I felt God was calling me to. Or, it was the tiny act of putting one foot in front of the other, headed in a direction I could sense the Lord asking me to go. When we take our own tiny seeds of faith and place them in the Father, he multiplies them and one day you’ll look back and see great mountains that faith has moved.

For me, I know that filling out the application to go to the Philippines on mission was a tiny seed of faith. Tiny. It was easy to put my name on the paper and accept the fact that I had done my part. However, when God opened that door, it took another seed of faith to walk through it. It took another seed of faith to follow through with my decision to go and many, many more tiny seeds along the way to accomplish what God had planned for me to do. I now look back and instead of seeing those tiny, individual seeds of faith that I planted in Christ, I see mountains. I see huge mountains that were moved in my life and monumental times where God was doing something miraculous- God was calling me out of my safe and comfortable lifestyle and into a beautiful story- my story.

It’s like that for all of us. When we fearlessly take those tiny seeds of faith and plant them in Christ, he multiplies and grows the roots deep so that our faith becomes strong and secure. Having experienced times when God moved mountains in my life makes my faith that much stronger. What starts out as just an itty-bitty sized faith turns into great big sized faith and before you know it, you’ll be taking leaps you never thought you’d take. Faith works that way. It isn’t something we just talk about, its something we do- an action we take. I love what 2 Corinthians 5:7 says about our faith,

“We live by faith, not by sight.” (emphasis added.)

If we live by sight alone, we’re missing out on the best parts of life. We’re missing the adventure, the spontaneity, the joys of knowing God’s true plan for our lives. I never, ever saw myself traveling the world on mission for God, speaking hope and truth to thousands who didn’t even speak my language, or writing a blog. I never saw Kindall as being anyone capable of living the life I’ve lived thus far, but that’s how faith works. We truly live by faith, not by our sight. If we choose not to live by faith, our lives remain stuck in the box of only what we can see. It all looks the same, it never grows or becomes more or multiplies. I truly believe that we’ll never know who God can be in our lives if we never live by faith and begin planting even the tiniest of seeds in Christ. Just saying that you have faith isn’t enough. I would ask what you’re doing with it. What small steps are you taking? Where is God calling you to (or from)? It could be putting your name on the application, making a phone call, sending an email, or literally walking into the place God is calling you to. Plant the seed and step through the door. I can recall having to plant many mustard seeds of faith in my life so far. And guess what? The mustard seeds of faith haven’t run out yet! Just when I think I can’t do something, God always helps me find the faith to give it a try. And even if I don’t get the results I expected, the seed doesn’t die. Faith without works is dead- doing something with your faith will ALWAYS LIVE. It will always grow. It will always cause mountains to move. Living life through faith is always worth living. So, go ahead. Be fearless. Have faith!

How are you planting seeds of faith? How has God moved mountains in your life? Where has that faith been most evident?

(You can read a sample of the Bicycles and Balloons Bible study for girls HERE! Be sure to share your thoughts!)