I’ve noticed recently the influx of new relationships, particularly those at church and from teens in the youth group. I live in a house full of girls. Boys come and go. I’ve been there. Seeing all of this makes me remember what it feels like to have a crush on someone and know they like you back. Looking from the outside in, it seems rather funny to me now how silly I was for liking some of the guys I liked back in high school. What was I thinking? I don’t think I was! Regardless, age and God’s Word has taught me that waiting for Mr. Right is so much better in the long run versus taking matters into my own hands and pursuing a love that isn’t really meant to be.
My sister and I had an interesting conversation the other day about relationships and how many girls today pursue the guys. One thing she said was, “Don’t give up on your dream.” I know what God has planted in my heart, but it left me burdened. I know that even though I may not have it all together now and my story isn’t fully written, I’m waiting on God with a full heart knowing that one day Mr. Right will find me. I know that I have a story to tell. We all do. And even though writing a little blog every now and then or praying for people in relationships that don’t have any idea I’m praying for them seems silly to some, I know that God will bless it and grow this ministry someday.
Knowing where I’ve been and what I’ve learned has inspired me to share this with girls (and guys) who may be looking for love. Because of where I’ve been, I pray that I can help someone else along the way know what to look for based on God’s standards. Here’s some of my thoughts on relationships.
1. Have you checked with God about it FIRST? Actually, God has some incredible stories about real people who found real love. One of my favorites is Ruth. I love that story because God placed her right in the middle of Boaz’s field. She obeyed God by going and He took care of the rest. And you want to know the best part? She wasn’t even looking to fall in love. Now, I’m not saying you have to get God’s permission because He will allow you to choose, but you should check to be sure that the way you go about it lines up with the Bible.
2. Aim high. This should go without saying, but I see that so many times girls seek any guy that will go out with them because they say, “the good ones are all gone,” or “there just aren’t any good guys where I live.” The truth is lowering your standards won’t get you the true gems. Chances are, you may be missing out on what God has for you because you’re too busy mining for fool’s gold. Don’t lower you standards just to get a date. It just isn’t worth it.
3. Be patient. God may have you waiting because you’re not ready for a relationship. Embrace this time of singleness and take every opportunity you have to grow closer to Jesus. Read the Bible, talk to God, nurture your love for Him so that you’ll be ready to love with Christ’s love when the time is right.